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Divided wedding cake topper“Young people may be eager to marry for love, but older couples are more practical and worry about paying the bills,” says Pepper Schwartz, professor of sociology at the University of Washington.

These days, more and more Americans are meeting new loves or (finally) their true loves later in life. It has been said that marriage is a young persons’ game, but love isn’t. Even if you leave marriage to the young and idealistic, there is still some planning that really has to be in place.

The sociology of later-in-life marriage is fascinating, both in thinking about the recent jump in numbers and the more recent decrease. Either with or without tying the knot it is also a practical issue with legal ramifications, and for those later-in-life loves not destined for marriage there is some practical advice to be gleaned in a recent article on the subject in The New York Times titled “Welcoming Love at an Older Age, but Not Necessarily Marriage.

MP900442457Reverse mortgages, which allow homeowners 62 and older to borrow money against the value of their homes that need not be paid back until they move out or die, have long posed pitfalls for older borrowers.

Although a reverse mortgage has some advantages, such as offering a means of cash to make ends meet, the financial community has been quick to point out that there are also some serious pitfalls to these mortgages.

The biggest drawback to bear in mind is that your heirs and loved ones may bear the brunt of the burden when it comes to those drawbacks. It is important to know how reverse mortgages work before you sign up for them. While you are at it, make you’re your heirs and other inheritors know what to expect.

MP900407501Adult day care centers provide care and companionship in a group setting to seniors who need supervision during the day, allowing their caregivers to go to work or take a much-needed break.

The balancing act of caring for an elderly loved one can be difficult, expensive and exhausting. You want to ensure they receive the care they need, yet at times you may feel overwhelmed.

Elder care options are often appreciated and one intermediary option was recently covered in an ElderLawAnswers post titled “Adult Day Care: Providing a Break for Caregivers.

Heirloom watchTime, it seems, has healed past wounds enough to leave us remembering Grandpa Oscar with a smile. Very belatedly the violin has served its purpose. We can hold on to the memories and let go of the object.

Family heirlooms seem to have special powers over the family. Memories and story-telling often result in the discussions of an inherited object. As one sitting down to put your intentions to paper, or even as the inheritor, it is a power worth pondering.

There are always the goals and intentions of the planning parent, of course. Nevertheless, more often than not, it is the family that sees the peculiar power of an heirloom. Maybe it is something well-loved and fought over, or the heirloom may simply provide the tinder to which a disgruntled heir may choose to set match and light a fire.

Signing documentAlzheimer’s patients live for years with diminished mental skills, which makes it crucial that they make decisions early on about how their care should proceed.

Planning for one’s estate and for one’s late-in-life plans requires more than a bit of wherewithal. This is not only an empirical fact but also a legal one. Because Alzheimer’s and dementia affect the mind means certain legal choices, whether regarding healthcare or disposition of property to one’s heirs, simply have to be down and in writing well before they are questionable.

It’s a complex problem. Fortunately, there are some important tools to keep in mind early and get a plan in place. Some of the basics were helpfully pointed out in a LifeHealthPro article last month titled “4 things to know about Alzheimer’s and estate planning.

Th (2)Stop saying everyone knows what you want. Everybody probably doesn’t know. Or in their grief, they may not be able to make the decisions you would have preferred. If you don’t leave written instructions, emotions or unresolved issues can get in the way.

The amount of frustration a family goes through when someone’s affairs are not in order and not in writing is beyond measure. When tragedy strikes or life takes over, the importance of planning is not lost on those who realize there were no plans made. What can you really do after the fact? Proper planning needs to happen now.

For an impassioned voice on the matter and some advice you should heed, be sure to read a recent commentary published in The Washington Post titled “Put your estate plan on paper before it’s too late.

Cash in handSuzanne M. Cheney performed many services for her stepfather, Anthony R. Turco, expecting to receive a share of his estate. However, to her great disappointment, he left her nothing.

There is a difference between care given out of responsibility and that given out of expectation of payment. Similarly, there is a difference between payments for services and an inheritance. Even if you do not live in Massachusetts, if you are caring for an elderly loved one and may or may not be an heir apparent, there is something to be learned from a recent case in the Bay State, Cheney v. Flood (84 Mass. App. Ct. 1134, Feb. 7, 2014).

ElderLawAnswers considered the Cheney case in an article titled “Don't Just Hope for an Inheritance; Get It in Writing.

Money giftBe prepared to demonstrate that the loan is legitimate, and that repayments are being made regularly. This documentation can also help sort matters out if the lender should die before the full value of the loan has been repaid.

If you are compelled to help out a family member by way of an intra-family loan, make sure you are aware of all the ins and outs before you extend the offer. The benefits of incorporating family loans into your estate plan were pointed out a short time ago in an article titled Estate planning benefits of intra-family loanson LifeHealthPro.com.

The benefits of making a loan are not immediately obvious because that means, by definition, the loaned assets are to be returned to the estate of the one granting the loan, plus interest. Yes, if you make a loan to a family member you still have to expect it back and charge interest at the federally mandated interest rate, the Applicable Federal Rate (or AFR) for the relevant time-frame of the loan. Otherwise, it is not a “loan,” but a “gift” and is subject to an entirely different set of rules.

MP900442457… Multi-generational living arrangements present legal and financial challenges around home ownership.

The family home is that special place where the family lives and comes together. In fact, some families take it one step further and actually all live under the same roof. Some 17% of the population have multi-generational living arrangements.

All that said, there are significant issues at play when it comes to actual home ownership and occupancy. How can a family keep everything straight and keep the family home?

Cash in handIf your parents live in one of 29 states or Puerto Rico that has filial responsibility laws on the books, you could potentially be held legally responsible for their care under certain circumstances, such as when your parents are ailing and without sufficient financial resources to take care of themselves. Until recently, these statutes have been largely ignored. However, several recent court decisions indicate that there might be renewed interest in enforcing them.

Filial support is not just a moral virtue. In many parts of the country and branches of the legal system filial support is a legal imperative. Filial support laws exist in 29 states as well as Puerto Rico, and have quietly existed on the books for some time. Now, however, these laws are a very real and present concern for the adult children of elderly loved ones.

Fortunately, Forbes has provided a crash course regarding filial laws and their potential challenges in an article titled “Who Will Pay For Mom's Or Dad's Nursing Home Bill? Filial Support Laws And Long-Term Care.

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