Articles Posted in Blended Families

4.4.18Remember to update your estate plan, especially if your life includes events like new kids, a new marriage or the death of a loved one.

If you love your family, you’ll keep them in mind when considering whether to make an appointment to update your estate, as you go through the inevitable changes of life. Not doing so can create financial and emotional burdens. That’s probably not how you want to be remembered.

According to a recent Newsday article, “Make sure your estate plan keeps up with life changes, experts say,” estate planning may seem overwhelming and depressing because it deals with issues of aging.  Some people believe that estate planning is just for the very rich.

12.13.17With the number of late in life marriages among older Americans on the rise, it is best to address financial, legal and blended family issues before walking down the aisle.

We Americans like to be married. So much so that, according to the U.S. Census Bureau, about a third of us have tied the knot at least twice. While the trend for younger adults is to delay getting married or not to marry at all, the number of Americans age 55 and up getting married again is on the rise.

The Flagstaff (AZ) Business News recently published an article, “Financial Issues to Consider in Remarriages,” which suggests that you should be candid about your financial situation. Couples who are marrying for the second (or third) time frequently have financial baggage. You should eliminate issues later in the marriage by having open and honest discussions about assets, debts and obligations. Think about the following questions to get the talks started:

6.23.17Blending a family is not an easy task, but doing so successfully can create a new and strong family unit. Among the challenges are how to blend finances.

Blended families are no longer limited to television sitcoms. The Pew Research Center reports that 41% of all Americans have at least one step-relative of one kind or another. As many as 1,300 new stepfamilies or blended families are created daily, according to the Stepfamily Foundation. But blending families includes decisions about finances, and that includes estate planning issues.

The Miami (OK) New-Record’s recent article, “4 tips to resolve financial concerns in stepfamilies,” provides some tips and answers for issues within stepfamilies.

12.14.16If you’re walking down the aisle again, there are a number of smart steps to take before you say “I do” another time.

Just as your life was probably simpler the first time you married, your subsequent marriage, especially if it occurs late in life, can become problematic, if good planning doesn’t happen in advance. If you don’t know your legal rights or your responsibilities, reports New Hampshire Magazine in “Navigating Late-Life Remarriage,” you, your children and your new spouse may be in for some unpleasant surprises.

While death and the likelihood that one spouse will outlive the other is inevitable, another important fact is that the divorce rate among those who remarry later in life years is 60%. This is much higher than the rate of any other segment of the population. Some experts think that number may go even higher.

8.16.16The old adage is right—a second marriage is indeed the triumph of hope over experience. Add estate planning to keep that hope—and peace in the family—intact.

It’s a delicate balance to hold: preserving assets for children from a first marriage and—at the same time—ensuring that your new spouse will have the assets needed to maintain his or her life in comfort. Balancing the two often requires coming to terms with realistic expectations for all.

CNBC’s article, “Getting remarried? Protect your assets and your interests,” recommends looking ahead and addressing questions about your goals, how your existing family and new spouse will relate to one another when you're gone and who will be in charge of the money. The big issue that heirs of a remarrying couple need to worry about more than federal estate tax is the new spouse.

Wedding cake topperAnytime a blended family includes children from prior marriages, estate planning becomes more challenging, as reported in The Meridian Star, in “Estate planning after a second marriage.” If there are young children, how can you ensure that the surviving spouse will take care of them? And what if you pass away and your surviving spouse remarries? One way to prepare for this possibility is to make a child the primary beneficiary of a life insurance policy, place certain property under joint ownership with the child or set up a trust for your children. But none of these steps are simple, and all require the hard conversation with your spouse and with an experienced estate planning attorney.

If you have a written a will, it may require an update. Be extremely specific about which heir gets what and state bequests convincingly. The more convincing your bequest, the less ambiguity and the fewer issues that will arise. Also, update your beneficiary designations for retirement plans, investment accounts, and insurance policies. However, if you’ve been divorced, you may be precluded from changing beneficiaries in certain cases. Talk to a qualified estate planning lawyer. Take a copy of your divorcee decree with you and ask if revising your beneficiary designations will violate it.

You can also take a look at irrevocable trusts, which can be used to provide for your spouse and your kids. Some people establish a separate property trust to provide for their spouse after their death and designate their real property to their children. Parents can also create irrevocable trusts to direct assets to particular children. These can be great estate planning vehicles because: (i) a trust agreement isn’t a public document; (ii) assets within irrevocable trusts are shielded from creditors and from inheritance claims of spouses of the adult children named as heirs; and (iii) an irrevocable trust represents a “finalized” estate planning decision—which guarantees that particular assets transfer to a parent’s biological children. In addition, irrevocable trusts are rarely undone.

Fight over moneyPerhaps if Dr. Nathaniel Shafer knew what was to come, he may have made some changes to his will that might have precluded a nasty dispute between his wife and his children from a previous marriage. Dr. Shafer’s will leaves a $10 million estate entirely to his wife and her child from a different marriage, Dr. Shafer’s children from a prior marriage accuse their stepmother of filing a fake will.   Estate planning for a blended family can be tricky.  

Jennifer and Robert Shafer, the children from a previous marriage, are claiming that their stepmother filed a fake will. They want the court to throw that will out and to use an earlier will that leaves half of the estate to them. To prove their claim, the Shafer siblings are asking the court to waive a doctor-patient privilege so a therapist the couple saw can testify about their relationship.

The New York Post reported this story in an article titled "Siblings claim stepmom filed fake will to get $10M inheritance."

GuitarWhen a man who had remarried passed away, his children were less upset about his leaving everything to their stepmother as they were about her decision to liquidate the family home and furnishings. Rather than give them an opportunity to enjoy things that had special meaning to the children, she took the position that they could come to the auction and bid on the items, just like anyone else who attended the auction. The heartbreak and hard feelings that resulted could have been prevented with the use of two documents: a Letter of Instruction and a Personal Property Memorandum.

While it seems that listing out personal assets like jewelry, books, photo albums and home furnishings might be tedious and not really necessary, a recent article in Forbes, “Simple Steps To Prevent Future Family Inheritance Rifts,” points the way to using two documents that can ensure that your personal property goes where you want it to go, and also saves your heirs from losing personal items that may hold a great deal of meaning to them.

A Personal Property Memorandum is a legally binding document. It is to be referred to in the will that is to list all the personal property you want to leave to your heirs and loved ones. A personal property memorandum is recognized in 30 states and must be referred to in the will. But the document doesn’t need to be notarized or witnessed. The article suggests that you clearly describe these items so they aren’t confused with others. For example, “All of the Barry Manilow LPs in my collection are to go to Cousin Buddy.” Make sure your executor or executrix has the correct information, as well. You don’t want the wrong relative to walk off with your disco records!

MP900422990Below are a few important considerations for estate planning for second (or subsequent) marriages.

If you find yourself looking at marriage for the second or third time, you may want to browse over to The Des Moines Register for an article entitled “Estate planning for a second marriage that discusses several great tips to keep in mind. Here are a few:

Discuss Money. This is a major cause of stress in any marriage; however, it can be really challenging in a second one. You and your future spouse should talk about and come to an agreement on all of the important financial issues. Make plans that both of you are okay with. If you’re considering a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement, it’s all the more important to tell all (finances-wise).

MP900309088Coming together at 50-plus is different from getting married in your 20s, particularly when it comes to money. "You've had a lifetime of solidifying your money beliefs" and behaviors, says Janet Stanzak, president of the Financial Planning Association. These are some ways to smooth the transition if you're tying the knot this summer.

It’s true, marriage at 50 looks a lot different than marriage at 25 for most Houston couples. And no, we aren’t talking about the latest wedding fashions or honeymoon destinations. Financially, there is much to consider when getting married past 50.

AARP Magazine published an article titled “4 Smart Money Moves If You Marry After 50”last summer that did a great job of discussing some reminders before saying “I do” after you turn age 50. These reminders will work for you if you are walking down the aisle this June, July, or August.

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